Our baby girl, Vail Capri, is now two months old. My life has done a complete 180 and I love it. It’s funny how many things have drastically changed – my routine, my outlook, my priorities, my perspective…my purpose!
Here are 5 things I’ve learned.
1. It can wait.
I’m a doer…always have been, always will be. Why put off until tomorrow what can be done today. Right? While I love productivity and checking things off my list, I’ve already realized that I can’t get back these precious moments. I don’t think anybody looks back on their life and says wow, I wish I had held my baby less. I’m trying to savor every minute of her being this small. Time spent with her and my husband doing nothing is not wasted, it’s the most valuable, productive way I can spend my time.
2. Never say never.
“I’ll never post a ton of pictures of my kid on social media. I’ll never use cloth diapers. I’ll never drive a mini-van.” Although I’m standing firm on the van one for now, I have already succumbed to the first two! This applies to so many situations in life, you just don’t know what you’ll do until you’re there. So, rather than eat my words later, I’ve learned to never say never.
3. Teamwork, teamwork, teamwork.
I played sports in high school and college but teamwork has now taken on an entirely different meaning. While my husband and I were a team before we had Vail, now, our teamwork is essential not only for the purpose of meeting her needs but also for the success of our marriage. We have different ways of doing things and my way isn’t necessarily the better way. Life is so much easier when we can share responsibilities and sweeter when we can celebrate accomplishments and milestones together.
4. Do what works.
We all have opinions that we’re pretty eager to share. And, I couldn’t do without a lot of the great advice I’ve been offered. My mom always quotes Proverbs 11:14 “In a multitude of counselors, there is safety”. That is absolutely true. But, we can’t take all of the advice we receive and we can’t feel bad about doing what works for us.
5. Things don’t always go according to plan.
I had a natural birth plan, I had a doula…I didn’t get to use either. I had a C-section. It wasn’t what I wanted, but she’s here and she’s healthy!